I thank God for my gifts and for helping me learn in this life. I thank my Angels for the never-ending guidance and direction to the right path I’m meant to follow. I ask Archangel Gabriel to guide me as I write so this message is clear. (it’s been over a year since I’ve written so edit as needed lol). I hold the intent all of you will notice the patterns of your life and learn from them.
First post of 2018. Not sure if this is going to be one of many or just this one but the nudges have been strong and those are my signs it is time to write. Hope it helps 🙂
This one is about recognizing Patterns of Life. I’ll start off with a tid bit of my story and see where the rest goes from there. As I have written about before I explained how I’m on a very intense spiritual journey in this life. It has taken me up, down, inside, outside and every place else that is possible. It’s nuts, fulfilling, exhausting, rewarding, confusing, complicated but most of all exactly what I need. Even tho sometimes I beg God to make it stop lol. It’s far from over but it has pushed me to see so many things about my life on a much healthier level. Like I have stated before…healing hurts and takes work but in time you are able to connect the dots and see the big picture.
So all of our lives come with lessons. Those lessons repeat until we learn to let go and change. The people in our lives play a role in those lessons and most of our experiences in life have hidden lessons too. Lessons offer a lot of positives too because they have a way of humbling us and remind us to see the beauty of our lives.
I’m going to assume all of those reading this have been taken advantage of, have felt unappreciated and maybe even heart-broken at one time or more than once in life. For those of you that have had the experience more than once that’s your clue that it’s time to break the pattern. Everything repeats until we learn the lesson.
I recently had a shift within myself that opened my eyes to what was happening in my life was actually a lesson I needed to master but didn’t. There’s a cluster of people in my life that bring a lot of heaviness and drama. I’ve tried many different avenues to make things work but the end result was always the same. Disappointment and resentment. Why is that if my part in the relationship was always the doer and the helper and the forgiving one? Why isn’t being the “bigger” person enough to shift a challenging relationship into a harmonious one? The answer is that it takes all sides of a relationship working together and not just one person trying to make it happen. So one day I stepped back and looked closer at the relationships with these people and tried to figure out what the hell is the real problem and why is it so complicated. I’ve written before about how I turn everything back to myself to see if I can find reasons for my feelings. It always works and is so accurate as long as I’m honest with myself about my dark side and the parts I still need to heal. So I realized in 15 years there is a certain pattern that repeats. My next thought was how do I change the pattern? I evaluated all of my actions over the past 15 years and made peace with what I may have done wrong and learned there was a lot of things I did right too. I learned that there was A LOT that I put up with but never deserved. That’s my lesson…putting an end to the pain and disrespect. Once I realized after 15 years of the same behavior from all parties involved the only answer was to create the change myself. I chose to stop tolerating the behavior and did what was needed for my self-respect. I didn’t fight, name call, defend myself but I did explain my reasons and chose to remove myself from the equation so I was not the easy blame anymore. My life changed for the better since I found peace. The others still have the drama and even though they may still try to point the finger at me, I have learned without me they still have the same problems so it’s not me. It’s a huge lesson which helped me grow and gave me tremendous amount of peace and release from toxic energy.
I use my story as an example but you can relate that lesson to so many scenarios. When you find yourself in situations in life that steal your inner peace then something needs to change. Maybe you can save the relationships or maybe you gotta go but take the time to evaluate everything. The patterns will appear and then you can decide what is good and what is not. All lessons are good but some don’t have to be so painful and everlasting. The key thing to focus on is your own self-respect. You gotta be the one who sets the boundaries. If you give then someone will always take but not all give back. That’s when the imbalances happen and resentment follows. Resentment isn’t healthy for anyone. If you have it towards someone then they are going to feel it and if they have towards you then you will feel it. It’s doesn’t need to be said out loud to know it’s there but it can be felt and it hurts. So how do you heal it? If you have it towards another then you will need to dig deep and figure out why that is. If you find it’s because you give more than you get back then you may need to step back a bit and put your own needs first for a while. Sometimes this leads to a “wake up” with the others and they realize they shouldn’t take you for granted and sometimes it reveals the true colors of people and it’s time to go. If someone has it towards you then again you got to go deep and search for anything you may have done to them that created the resentment. Sometimes you find it and sometimes you just have to give them space to sort out their feelings and the judgement they have towards you. If you find you were the cause then find your lesson in it so the heavy energy of resentment can shift into a healing one and everyone will feel the weight lifted. That will help the relationship come into balance too. The people in our lives are here to help in one way or another even when they drive us crazy. Fun times I know 🙂
So my life went on and as always once you master a tough lesson you get the high from it and life appears more beautiful for a bit. I was driving into work one day and the song My Wish by Rascal Flatts came on and the words spoke to me. That song is part of a video Ron made for me on our 10th anniversary. He made a sweet video of pictures of our life during the 10 years. Pictures of us , our kids, things we’ve done, places we went. It was a special gift and this song reminded me of what my life is truly about. What everyone’s life is about really. We all have people who love us. If they bring you joy, if they are there when you need them, if they matter to you then that’s love. Life can bring a ton of struggle and extreme pain but there will always be someone or a few people in your life that can help you through. It’s so important to step back during the difficult times to really see who is there and who brings the joy during your pain, who listens to understand so they can offer what they can to help you and who you know you can trust. To feel like you have a handful of people who you can trust in this life is a special gift so always appreciate those people. They are a rare find and they have found their way to you for a reason. Always step out of the chaos and be grateful. It changes everything for the better no matter how rough life is being at the moment.
This might be out by Valentine’s Day if all goes as planned so take this “Love” time of year and see it in your life. It’s not about gifts, cards and fancy dates it’s about who is there for you, good , bad and always. It’s about how do you feel about yourself and how do you allow others to treat you. Do you feel you get what you deserve? Do you feel people give back all that you give out? Do you return the love that is shown to you? The journey of healing requires self love and without self love there will not be inner peace. If you want peace then you gotta go deep and heal. If you want change then you gotta create it for yourself. If you want respect then you gotta set the boundaries and be firm that nobody crosses them. If you want people to love you then you gotta give it in return. If you want to give it then you will need to learn to have it for yourself. If you don’t have it for yourself then you gotta go deep and clear the blocks. If you have it for yourself then SMILE because it’s a not an easy journey but you made it:)
Life will go in many directions. It’s always changing and so unpredictable. The patterns will repeat. That doesn’t mean you don’t have the power to change it, heal it and find something to love about it. As it (kinda)says in the song…while your getting to where your going to …I hope this life becomes all that you want it to…and in the end I hope you know somebody loves you. And you learn to love yourself too❤️.
I randomly pick these cards and 2 of them jumped out of the deck. It’s always so fascinating how the cards fit the message in the blog too.
Self Care- this is a reminder that it is time to turn your focus onto yourself. If you feel depleted then that’s a warning sign you may need a break. It’s not selfish to take breaks and do things for your own well being. It’s actually necessary so you can return to giving and doing for those you care for.
Outdoors- I feel like this one comes up a lot. Nature is the best medicine. Just get out there as much as possible and as much as needed. You will feel the shift in your soul after just a few minutes.
Friendship- this can be symbolic for friends, partners, spouses or anyone that plays a positive role in your life. Remember to be present in those relationships and not too focused on the chaos of life. The more positive people you have surrounding you in life the better and easier it is to get through the difficult times. Make time for those people even if it is just an occasional call, text or outing. We all need breaks from ever day life and if alone time isn’t needed its better to spend it with the good people in our life.
Full message of cards- It’s time to focus on yourself because you may be losing yourself a bit. Outdoors is a good place to start even just by taking a quick walk or spend time looking out the window at the surrounding nature. It’s time to bring yourself back into balance so you can connect with your “good people”. Too much negativity can way a person down to the point that they pull away from others and this can strain relationships. Be mindful of what’s going on within and make steps to change what no longer works for you. One step at a time can make a huge difference in your life. No steps keeps you in the same place. You get to decide where you would rather be.
I just noticed this is blog #150- that’s crazy! Never thought I could even write one. Hope they have made somewhat of a difference in your lives:)